Your Friend Got the Job You Wanted

You and your best friend are going for the same job, and she got it. Or, maybe you’ve been looking for a job for months and you neighbor, who already had a job, finds one without even looking. Comparing your own career search to others is natural, but it’s also adds quite a bit of negativity to our lives and can cause tension on friendships. But, luckily, there are a few things you can do to avoid comparison blues.  

First, look at the different career paths between you and your friend. You may have similar jobs, or you may not, but you are each on your own journey. Try to remember that what might be a good fit for your friend, might not be for you, and your ultimate goal is to find a job that suits you.  

If your friend got a job that you really wanted and you thought that you would have been good for, use that friend as an in at the company (once she gets settled!). You can also talk to your friend about the interview and look at their experiences to see what skills you can gain and how you can do things differently the next time.  

Lastly, remember that success is not finite. Just because your friend found a job doesn’t mean you won’t find one either. Your perfect job is out there, you just have to keep looking!